I used to hear people say that "the wine is full and the tea is shallow", but if you want to ask about it, my uncle doesn't know it.

until one day, I drank tea with a friend who was good at the tea ceremony and listened to him pour it and say:

"it is human to always pour seven cents of tea and leave three cents behind."

it suddenly dawned on me and got the charm of it.

Tea is too hot and easy to hurt; tea is easy to sprinkle, which is easy to embarrass people; tea is too full to make people feel the pleasure of drinking tea and smelling incense.

if the host treats guests with tea, the tea is not full, leaving both moderation and leeway, and the same is true of being a man.

when you are alive, you throw seven points to yourself and three points to others.

if you yell, you don't have to be too harsh, leave one-third of your dignity to others and be lenient to yourself; if you are reasonable, you don't have to strive too hard, leave three points of face to others and turn to yourself....

this will not be full, is the best state of life.

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Don't be full of everything, but ask for deficiency of all things

as the saying goes, "when the moon makes a profit, it loses, and when the water is full, it overflows."

We are often easy to misunderstand that when we reach the end of the big fullness, we can be released and satisfied, but often things go to extremes, and it is not good to have too much or too much.

in the traditional art of ink painting and calligraphy, there is a supreme state, which is called "leaving blank".

what it pays attention to is that there is no victory, and less wins more. If it is too full and too real, it loses its dexterity and elegance in the composition, and appears lifeless.

this realm cannot be done without a master. Often look at a painting, look at its blank, you can see the owner's chest of the hills, the realm of the high and low.

A picture of fishing alone on the Cold River by Ma Yuan in the Southern Song Dynasty rendered the full and unfulfilled artistic conception incisively and vividly.

Black is ink, white is paper, three strokes and two paintings show charm. There is only one person and one boat in the painting, but it is not in the ink, but it gives people a sense of vastness.

Life should be like such a picture, which not only has a strong color, but also should be left blank. And this blank "lack", but also let life a little more wonderful aftertaste and reverie.

Su Shi said: "people will be reunited and separated, the moon will be full and missing, this is difficult in ancient times."

it has existed since ancient times to avoid fullness in all things and to seek shortages in all things. Therefore, what you ask for in life does not have to be too perfect, and it may not be regret.

for all things, the meaning of endless retention is round; for all things, the meaning of endless retention is abundant; for all feelings, the meaning of endless retention is deep; for all words, the meaning of endless retention is far away; for every prosperity, there is much interest; for all talents, the meaning of endless retention is full of spirit.

treat people and things, leave an endless meaning, in the feelings are not extreme, can not be overdone.

leave room for detour when doing things, and adopt flexible and flexible methods to adapt to circumstances, so that you have sufficient conditions and room for manoeuvre, so that you can preserve yourself perfectly and unscathed.

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be a man and leave blank, advance and retreat

Confucius once talked about the question of "how to grasp the degree of living in the world" in a comment on his disciples.

Zi Zhang is a grandmaster, and Zi Xia is a divination merchant, both of whom are proud disciples of Confucius.

once, when Zi Gong was talking to Confucius about the character of his brothers, he suddenly asked Confucius a question: "Sir, which is better, Zi Zhang or Zi Xia?"

Confucius thought for a moment and said, "it is too much for Zi Zhang to be extreme and exposed; Zi Xia, on the contrary, is gloomy and introverted."

Zi Gong asked again, "if you look at it this way, won't Zi Zhang be stronger?"

Confucius shook his head and said, "going too far is the same as not meeting the standard. You have not mastered the limits."

always pursues people who are too full, just as a knife with an unusually sharp edge can be easily broken, and often does not have the spirituality that changes from time to time and the resilience to travel thousands of miles.

if you want to change, you can only put away your outdated edges and corners, appease your overflowing desires, and leave yourself a piece of leeway.

as Zhuangzi once said, "the empty room gives birth to whiteness, but auspiciousness stops."

only an empty room will appear bright. If the room is full of things, the light will not penetrate.

the same is true of people.

only by sweeping away the desires that blind the mind, can the state of mind return to clarity and clarity, and auspicious well-being will soon come.

emptiness gives birth to wisdom, emptiness leads to clarity. In dealing with people and things, we should pay attention to the theory that "it will not be full".

in this way, we have just advanced and retreated properly and lived just right.

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Life does not ask for too much fulfillment, Lesser Fullness of Grain is consummation

it is life that there is something to do, something to look forward to and something to avoid.

in the life of Zeng Guofan, the first minister of Zhongxing in the late Qing Dynasty, he achieved the ultimate in both scholarship and official work.

create the Hunan Army, quell the rebellion, become a great minister, and write a book. Zeng Guofan avoids the perfection that ordinary people ask for, lest he be perfect.

he changed the name of his study to "seeking que (lack) Zhai" because he was well aware of the truth that "virtue is full but loss, and happiness is diminished by pride".

in order to dispel the suspicion of his superiors, he deliberately cut his wings and played down his efforts.

only deals with self-cultivation, dealing with people, making friends, educating children, and so on.

but to make your life reach the state of "not yet full", ZengIn that stormy dynasty, Guofan was able to live in glory and death, make a good beginning and end, and future generations were also affected by its family motto, and talents emerged in large numbers.

"Caigen Tan" says: "if there is more than enough for everything, then the creation cannot bogey me, and ghosts and gods cannot harm me; if the karma must be fulfilled, the success must be achieved, and if there is no internal change, it will call external worries."

in our lives, we often have a lot of expectations, hoping that everything can be achieved.

but you need to know that "you can't do all you can, you can't enjoy all your blessings, you can't use up all your cheapness, and you can't use up your wisdom." it's not beautiful to be full of things in life.

if we do not put an end to endless desires, we will fall into an insatiable endless cycle, and there will be no good fruit in the end.

in order to dispel the suspicion of his superiors, he deliberately cut his wings and played down his efforts.

only deals with self-cultivation, dealing with people, making friends, educating children, and so on.

but to make your life reach the state of "not yet full", ZengIn that stormy dynasty, Guofan was able to live in glory and death, make a good beginning and end, and future generations were also affected by its family motto, and talents emerged in large numbers.

"Caigen Tan" says: "if there is more than enough for everything, then the creation cannot bogey me, and ghosts and gods cannot harm me; if the karma must be fulfilled, the success must be achieved, and if there is no internal change, it will call external worries."

in our lives, we often have a lot of expectations, hoping that everything can be achieved.

but you need to know that "you can't do all you can, you can't enjoy all your blessings, you can't use up all your cheapness, and you can't use up your wisdom." it's not beautiful to be full of things in life.

if we do not put an end to endless desires, we will fall into an insatiable endless cycle, and there will be no good fruit in the end.

it is better to be more satisfied in the days. Lin Yutang once said, "when you see the clouds in autumn, life should not be too crowded, it should be empty."

and it is the "lack" that has been in life that makes the journey of life "complete".

what is not perfect in this world is normal, and what has imperfections is life. No matter how to pursue the extreme, you should also remember to tell yourself:

Life doesn't have to be too full, because when things go to the extreme, they will turn back.