there is a saying in the ancient poem: if you don't talk about things in the world, there is nothing in the world.

in life, everyone can't avoid dealing with others. Although everyone has a mouth, not everyone can speak.

people who can't speak will offend others and even tire themselves by opening their mouths, and the real wise men know how to judge the hour and size up the situation, so they behave like a fish in water.

in dealing with people, you would rather be silent than talk nonsense; you would rather be speechless than talk too much.

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Silence is the best practice

Silence is not speechless, but measured, general, and knows what to say and what not to say.

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people's many troubles are often defeated by one mouth. the most difficult thing in life is not to learn to speak, but to know how to be silent at the right time.

writer Jia Pingwa once told a story:

I traveled with a friend a few years ago, and my friend stuttered badly.

one day someone asks for directions in the street, but he stutters, but his friend doesn't say a word.

after I asked him why he didn't reply, my friend said, "people stutter, too. I'm going to answer. The man thought I was imitating and teasing, so he kept his mouth shut."

it is human instinct to speak, and it is a practice to know the right silence.

nowadays, there are too many people who just talk but do not practice fake tricks, and those who work silently are particularly valuable.

similarly, there are too many people who can talk, and those who are cautious in words and deeds seem to be more reliable.

Mozi said:

"Toads, frogs, and stinky flies living by the water, they bark day and night.

and the rooster, it just crows at dawn, everyone hears the chicken dance and starts a new day's work.

in contrast, what are the benefits of talking more? Only by getting to the point can we attract people's attention. "

in life, there are many people who chatter like mosquitoes, but few of them can really calm down and do things.

on the way of life, we should learn to be silent. Some words are only suitable for hiding, and some things can be seen through without saying.

two years to learn to speak, a lifetime to learn to shut up.

when a person is more and more silent, less and less want to say, is the beginning of real maturity.

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misfortune comes out of the mouth. If you talk too much, you will lose.

some people say that there are only retrogressive people and cars in the world, and there is no time and way to go backwards.

the same is true of people. If you say something, the water you spill cannot be taken back.

whether you talk unintentionally or casually, it will bring unhappiness to obedient people, and it is easy to cause trouble.

do you know the story of "disaster comes out of the mouth"?

it is rumored that a sheep peddler stayed at Zhang Zhifu's house and locked up more than 20 goats bought at his house for the night.

it was the middle of winter and it was cold. More than a dozen neighbors gathered at Zhang Zhifu's house to brag and pass the long night.

each person has a story, after you sing, I will take the stage, the atmosphere is strong.

after the first round, everyone talked about it, but only the foreign guests didn't talk about it.

Zhang Zhifu said, "We all talked about it, but you also told me one?" The guest said, "I can't speak well. Go on, I'll listen to it cheaply."

after three rounds in a row, the guests declined politely and everyone booed, "I can't just make you listen cheaply, you have to talk about it anyway."

the guest had to bite the bullet and tell a satirical story.

Zhang Zhifu angrily came to the sheepfold and drove the guest's 20 or so goats out of the fold.

Ling sheep, on the third shift in the middle of the night, the barren mountains and mountains alone drove a flock of sheep in the wilderness.

there is a folk saying, "words do not come from the mouth, and resentment is not contrary to the body."

when you want to open your mouth, the words you say must be thoughtful, and in many cases listening is better than talking.

when we reach a certain age, we should take good care of our mouths, know people without judging others, and never talk about things when things happen, because if we talk too much, we will lose.

Laozi said, "those who know do not speak, but those who speak do not know."

A wise man does not speak casually, and he who speaks casually has no insight.

people who are really wise have no right in their eyes and have a measured exit, so there are fewer tribulations in life.

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I would rather be speechless than talk too much

Old people often say that eating too much hurts the body, and talking too much hurts people.

sometimes, if you eat too much, your stomach will be very uncomfortable, and some people talk too much, which is really not pleasant to listen to.

when people walk in the world, more words are not as good as fewer words, and less words are not as good as words.

in the town, there is a little boy with such a bad temper that the children around him do not like to play with him.

later, his father gave him a bag of nails and told him to hammer a nail into the wall every time he cursed or lost his temper.

slowly, the boy no longer lost his temper.

his father also suggested that from now on, if he could not lose his temper for a day, he should pull out a nail.

after a while, the boy finally pulled out all the nails.

his father took him toCome forward, say earnestly:

"you have done well, but look at those holes in the wall. It will never be the same again."

this is the same as talking to you. When you talk angrily, it will leave scars, just like these holes.

cut a person with a knife and pull it out. No matter how many times you say you're sorry, the wound is still there. "

the mouth is a double-edged sword. Good words are warm in three winters, while evil words hurt people in June.

A warm word can make a person feel like a spring breeze, while a cruel word can pull a person into the ice cellar.

if we are not sure that every word we say is beautiful, we would rather not talk than talk.

you don't have to say enough to know people, leaving three points of leeway for them.

between people, it is often because of the talkative sentence or two that makes a bad impression.

I have heard such a joke that a man who can't talk goes to a 100th birthday party of a friend's child.

before leaving, his wife told him that if you can't speak, don't talk.

although it is common sense to be old and ill in life, it is really unpleasant to say such a thing at a birthday party.

people who can't speak always say things to death as soon as they open their mouth, breaking their own way and hurting the feelings of others.

being able to speak is an art. If you draw a window for others, you can see a more complete sky.

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Confucius said: "A gentleman wants to be slow in words, but quick in deeds."

the so-called gentleman should be cautious in his words and quick in his actions.

in this world, there are many people you don't like, all kinds of unsatisfactory things, but hate a person, there is no need to fall out; to see through a thing, there is no need to reveal it.

"the high mountains and rocks are wide and the gold and silver are few, and the people in the world are thick and gentlemen are rare. Friends do not have to use all their words, for fear of causing trouble in the world. "

whenever you sit still, you often think about your own mistakes and gossip about others. To save face with others is to leave leeway for yourself.

Life is a silent practice, with eyes learning to do things and mouths learning to be human.

it is the most basic self-cultivation to look at yourself in the mirror of others.

in this life, may you not be a human being, do not take care of twists and turns, keep your heart with your mouth, and be carefree.