-01-

"is it wrong for me to find a 'virtuous' wife?"

on Weibo, I saw an interesting joke about an introducer imparting "experience" to the younger generation in his family:

"Don't find a beautiful girlfriend, I'll tell you to spend it; don't find an ugly one, you can't take it out; if you want to find a girlfriend, just

looking for virtuous people, you can still serve your parents! If you find a rich girl, you'll have to wait on her when you get back! "

this reminds me of a news I saw before:

A young man and a girl met on a blind date. Originally, they talked well in all aspects, but as a result, they were offended by the two words

each other.

the boy said he wanted to find a "virtuous" girl, but the girl immediately exploded when she heard the word.

the boy said aggrieved that because I said something wrong or the girl was too sensitive, I just wanted to find a "virtuous" wife

?

about the answer to the question, many people have different opinions.

some people say that boys think too beautifully, while others say that girls' words are too intense.

in fact, everyone has their own views on marriage, and if they are destined to have different values, coercion is also a bitter fruit.

but I don't know since when, "virtuous" seems to be a talent that women should show at any time.

in the eyes of most people, to marry a wife is to marry a virtuous and caring family. When a man goes out to earn money to support his family, you wash at home

A child with clothes has to subsidize his family occasionally.

but how can there be such a good thing in the world?

as a woman, she demands obedience and cleverness from an early age; when she becomes a mother, she is more reasonable and virtuous.

Shu Tak.

-02-

the more virtuous you are, the more others take it for granted

A friend Jiayin and her husband are college classmates. She has been her husband's virtuous wife and filial piety over the years of marriage.

the good daughter-in-law of my parents-in-law is also a good mother who can do anything.

before dawn every day, Jiayin begins to prepare breakfast for the family, ironing the clothes for her husband to wear to work, and giving

my parents-in-law took out the blood pressure medicine in advance, and they had to send their son to school before they had time for breakfast.

day after day, year after year, Jiayin said that she cast an envious look every time she heard her neighbors talking to her parents-in-law.

I think it's worth everything.

until last weekend, Jiayin slept a little longer because he was working too late the night before and his head was dizzy.

who thinks, when my mother-in-law entered the room, instead of asking her what was wrong with her, she confidently asked why there was no

prepare breakfast? Her husband is also calling her, where are the clothes to be worn today?

Jiayin buzzed his mind as he listened to the shouts of the whole family.

she smiled bitterly when she talked to me. Before, I always felt that I had worked so hard for this family. They understood me and didn't want to

up to now, there is no right to have a single illness.

I tried to comfort her, but I took it back on my lips.

silly girl, if you love someone, just pay seven points, and save the remaining three points to love yourself.

the more capable and virtuous you are, the more others take it for granted. when you relax one day, all you get is censure and

question.

you work hard to find a table of good food, but he dislikes the strange taste and is not to your taste.

you put your house in good order, so that he doesn't have to worry about it, but he says who can't do such a little thing;

the most ironic thing is to envy other people's wives and bury their own wives in moments.

everyone wants to live with a gentle, virtuous and virtuous woman, but no one has ever asked them if they are lucky or happy.

-03-

what does "virtuous" bring to women?

backstage readers once asked such a question: why is it that the more sensible I am, the less distressed I am?

in my opinion, a sensible girl is like a child who can't cry, swallowing in her stomach when she loses her teeth, while everyone

accustomed to that sensible, naturally no one will take you seriously.

the same is true of marriage.

this is why some people say that "spoiled women have the best fate".

because the more sensible you are, the more worthless you are in his eyes.

do you remember this video?

because the heroine in the video is out of shape after giving birth to three children and has no time management, her figure is becoming more and more

fat.

her husband often doesn't come home after work, which makes her have to take her three children to find her husband in the sub-zero winter.

unexpectedly, when the husband, who was having dinner with his colleagues, saw the wife who suddenly appeared, he looked disgusted and had nowhere to hide.

isn't the wife in the video virtuous?

not only do you have to take care of the diet and daily life of the three children every day, but also take time out to do housework.

but what does this so-called "virtuous" bring to women?

is full of mouth.Constant dislike? Or an eyeful of disdain?

, she spoke from the heart of many women:

"

is this what I want to be? Not one child, but three children. When giving birth to three children

it's too late to recuperate. Not to mention recuperating, have you ever taken care of the children for me? "

in the face of his wife's crying, the husband's reaction was: "I'm bored to death!"

the man in the video has found a free babysitter rather than a wife.

it is difficult for a man to support a family, but it is not easy for a woman to give everything. Not only does she not get the respect and understanding of her husband,

give them a chance to be chic and happy.

when you are in love, you are in love, and when you are married, you often play with guns.

the man said I was looking for a woman who is as beautiful as a flower and a thrifty housekeeper. Unexpectedly, you not only can't teach your husband and son, but also like

extravagance and waste.

the woman said that I wanted to marry a man who knew my warmth and asked me about my joys and sorrows. Unexpectedly, you not only fooled around, but also said I

be extravagant.

when he was young, he pursued vigorous love, but later found that mediocrity is what marriage is originally like.

the good daughter-in-law of my parents-in-law is also a good mother who can do anything.

before dawn every day, Jiayin begins to prepare breakfast for the family, ironing the clothes for her husband to wear to work, and giving

my parents-in-law took out the blood pressure medicine in advance, and they had to send their son to school before they had time for breakfast.

day after day, year after year, Jiayin said that she cast an envious look every time she heard her neighbors talking to her parents-in-law.

I think it's worth everything.

until last weekend, Jiayin slept a little longer because he was working too late the night before and his head was dizzy.

who thinks, when my mother-in-law entered the room, instead of asking her what was wrong with her, she confidently asked why there was no

prepare breakfast? Her husband is also calling her, where are the clothes to be worn today?

Jiayin buzzed his mind as he listened to the shouts of the whole family.

she smiled bitterly when she talked to me. Before, I always felt that I had worked so hard for this family. They understood me and didn't want to

up to now, there is no right to have a single illness.

I tried to comfort her, but I took it back on my lips.

silly girl, if you love someone, just pay seven points, and save the remaining three points to love yourself.

the more capable and virtuous you are, the more others take it for granted. when you relax one day, all you get is censure and

question.

you work hard to find a table of good food, but he dislikes the strange taste and is not to your taste.

you put your house in good order, so that he doesn't have to worry about it, but he says who can't do such a little thing;

the most ironic thing is to envy other people's wives and bury their own wives in moments.

everyone wants to live with a gentle, virtuous and virtuous woman, but no one has ever asked them if they are lucky or happy.

-03-

what does "virtuous" bring to women?

backstage readers once asked such a question: why is it that the more sensible I am, the less distressed I am?

in my opinion, a sensible girl is like a child who can't cry, swallowing in her stomach when she loses her teeth, while everyone

accustomed to that sensible, naturally no one will take you seriously.

the same is true of marriage.

this is why some people say that "spoiled women have the best fate".

because the more sensible you are, the more worthless you are in his eyes.

do you remember this video?

because the heroine in the video is out of shape after giving birth to three children and has no time management, her figure is becoming more and more

fat.

her husband often doesn't come home after work, which makes her have to take her three children to find her husband in the sub-zero winter.

unexpectedly, when the husband, who was having dinner with his colleagues, saw the wife who suddenly appeared, he looked disgusted and had nowhere to hide.

isn't the wife in the video virtuous?

not only do you have to take care of the diet and daily life of the three children every day, but also take time out to do housework.

but what does this so-called "virtuous" bring to women?

is full of mouth.Constant dislike? Or an eyeful of disdain?

, she spoke from the heart of many women:

"

is this what I want to be? Not one child, but three children. When giving birth to three children

it's too late to recuperate. Not to mention recuperating, have you ever taken care of the children for me? "

in the face of his wife's crying, the husband's reaction was: "I'm bored to death!"

the man in the video has found a free babysitter rather than a wife.

it is difficult for a man to support a family, but it is not easy for a woman to give everything. Not only does she not get the respect and understanding of her husband,

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give them a chance to be chic and happy.

when you are in love, you are in love, and when you are married, you often play with guns.

the man said I was looking for a woman who is as beautiful as a flower and a thrifty housekeeper. Unexpectedly, you not only can't teach your husband and son, but also like

extravagance and waste.

the woman said that I wanted to marry a man who knew my warmth and asked me about my joys and sorrows. Unexpectedly, you not only fooled around, but also said I

be extravagant.

when he was young, he pursued vigorous love, but later found that mediocrity is what marriage is originally like.

virtuous and virtuous is not the only criterion for judging women. On the contrary, your sensibility and your efforts should only be left to those who are worthy of trust.

-04-

Marriage is a transaction, equality lasts long

some people say that marriage has never been won by the tolerance and virtuousness of women.

if a couple is a man who works outside the home and comes back to be a shopkeeper, the woman only needs to take care of the house with her child, and du does not go out.

such marriages don't usually last.

because the essence of marriage is a transaction, if both parties pay inequality, the balance of marriage will tilt, home

the court is doomed to be broken.

in the Oscar classic Mr. and Mrs. Kramer, the Kramer couple have been married for 8 years, and their son is clever and sensible.

the husband has a career, and the wife is beautiful and virtuous. In the eyes of outsiders, she is a beautiful family.

however, when the husband asked to climb another tall building in his career, the wife chose to leave.

the reason is that he is dissatisfied with her husband's absence in the family and is tired of the life of a housewife.

after the wife left, the husband was unable to take care of his family and career. Not only did he not take good care of the children, but also because he was tired at work.

I was fired by my boss.

in this marriage, there is no violence, there is no third party, some just give wholeheartedly, in exchange for not understanding.

in many marriages, men have no sense of participation and are in vain, and women are easy to accumulate grievances.

is there a unified standard for happiness? The answer varies from person to person.

Women can bear hardships to have children, and men also have to do their duty as fathers.

Women can return home to wash their hands and make vegetable soup themselves, while men wash dishes and chopsticks after meals, and it is also a contribution to mop the floor.

Women can serve their parents-in-law without complaint, and men should also be grateful for their wives' efforts and treat each other with the same mentality

.

A good relationship is never the work of one person, but the co-operation of two people.

if you put in a peach and I will return the favor, the source of love will not be cut off.

May you love love, be loyal to the years, and some people will love you and end with you.

May you settle down and be a heroine when you are alone, and have three meals and four seasons after meeting two people

there is vitality, sharing human fireworks in the long stream of water.

the husband has a career, and the wife is beautiful and virtuous. In the eyes of outsiders, she is a beautiful family.

however, when the husband asked to climb another tall building in his career, the wife chose to leave.

the reason is that he is dissatisfied with her husband's absence in the family and is tired of the life of a housewife.

after the wife left, the husband was unable to take care of his family and career. Not only did he not take good care of the children, but also because he was tired at work.

I was fired by my boss.

in this marriage, there is no violence, there is no third party, some just give wholeheartedly, in exchange for not understanding.

in many marriages, men have no sense of participation and are in vain, and women are easy to accumulate grievances.

is there a unified standard for happiness? The answer varies from person to person.

Women can bear hardships to have children, and men also have to do their duty as fathers.

Women can return home to wash their hands and make vegetable soup themselves, while men wash dishes and chopsticks after meals, and it is also a contribution to mop the floor.

Women can serve their parents-in-law without complaint, and men should also be grateful for their wives' efforts and treat each other with the same mentality

.

A good relationship is never the work of one person, but the co-operation of two people.

if you put in a peach and I will return the favor, the source of love will not be cut off.

May you love love, be loyal to the years, and some people will love you and end with you.

May you settle down and be a heroine when you are alone, and have three meals and four seasons after meeting two people

there is vitality, sharing human fireworks in the long stream of water.

I was fired by my boss.

in this marriage, there is no violence, there is no third party, some just give wholeheartedly, in exchange for not understanding.

in many marriages, men have no sense of participation and are in vain, and women are easy to accumulate grievances.

is there a unified standard for happiness? The answer varies from person to person.

Women can bear hardships to have children, and men also have to do their duty as fathers.

Women can return home to wash their hands and make vegetable soup themselves, while men wash dishes and chopsticks after meals, and it is also a contribution to mop the floor.

Women can serve their parents-in-law without complaint, and men should also be grateful for their wives' efforts and treat each other with the same mentality

.

A good relationship is never the work of one person, but the co-operation of two people.

if you put in a peach and I will return the favor, the source of love will not be cut off.

May you love love, be loyal to the years, and some people will love you and end with you.

May you settle down and be a heroine when you are alone, and have three meals and four seasons after meeting two people

there is vitality, sharing human fireworks in the long stream of water.