Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should have more respect and distance.
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every family has its own difficult classics
more than 75% of people in family life are plagued by the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
investigate the reason, but it is all because of some small details in life, which leads to the subjective consciousness that both sides do not like.
through the ages, the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been the biggest contradiction in family life.
A harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will make a family more harmonious and the whole family will be like a spring breeze.
the discordant relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not only make the chickens and dogs in the family jump, but also make the neighbors restless.
so how do mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along?
I have heard such a story that there is a pair of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who do not get along well and always dislike each other.
as a result of being depressed for a long time, both of them finally got sick.
so my mother-in-law went to a famous local doctor for treatment. unexpectedly, her mother-in-law was talking about her daughter-in-law while she was seeing a doctor, and the doctor frowned.
when her mother-in-law saw the doctor's expression, she stopped talking and said, "Doctor, am I seriously ill?" .
the doctor said helplessly, "Sorry, I'm sorry, but there's nothing I can do. Please ask someone else to be wise."
after listening to the doctor's words, my mother-in-law realized the seriousness and turned pale with fear.
"Doctor, you must save me. Everyone knows that your medical skills are among the best. If there is nothing you can do, do I still have a cure?"
my mother-in-law keeps asking the doctor for help.
after a while, the doctor said, "I do have a prescription. You can try."
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"after you go home today, you should find ten advantages of your daughter-in-law within a week. Come back after you find it."
although her mother-in-law is very reluctant, she can only follow the doctor's advice for the sake of her health.
before long, her daughter-in-law came to the doctor for consultation, and the doctor told her the same way.
in accordance with the doctor's prescription, the two began to find each other's advantages every day, but at first it was very difficult, but slowly they found that their mindset changed, and their point of view of each other changed.
they will soon find each other's strengths, and their relationship will become more harmonious.
in the end, the condition of the two people naturally died and recovered.
in fact, the biggest problem for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along with each other is to put each other on the opposite side of their own at the beginning, as their own sworn enemies, with such a state of mind, how can they get along peacefully?
the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a fate. Only by thinking about problems from each other's point of view and finding each other's advantages, then the family will naturally be harmonious and everyone will be happy.
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A good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should be mutual respect
I am used to seeing too many readers' private letters come to complain about life and emotional ups and downs, and occasionally a few readers share their happy life backstage, which makes people feel particularly good.
reader Xiao Su said that on the day she married her husband, her mother-in-law was very happy and promised to her face: "from now on, I will treat you as if you were my own daughter."
Xiao Su was moved by her mother-in-law's words and was glad to have married such a family.
but many people told her: "Don't be happy too early, you are the same now, married is another, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a great difficulty, enough for you."
at first, Xiao Su was also worried about getting along with her mother-in-law, so no matter what she did, she would look at her for fear that if she made a mistake, it would cause family conflicts.
but after getting along for a long time, Xiao Su found that her mother-in-law was actually a very gentle person, enlightened and magnanimous, and it was not difficult to get along.
now that she has been married for six years, Xiao Su has never blushed with her mother-in-law.
all this is not only because of Xiao Cu's kindness and thoughtfulness, but also because of her mother-in-law's understanding.
in daily life, no matter what Xiao Su does, her mother-in-law will not directly refuse or refute it, but will respect her daughter-in-law's opinion and think from her daughter-in-law's point of view.
usually I have to get up early to go to work. I finally have a rest and want to sleep in. My mother-in-law always prepares breakfast, but she never urges her to get up early.
when I want to go out with my husband to commemorate Valentine's Day, my mother-in-law will take the initiative to say, "I'll take care of the children, and you'll have fun!"
even if there are some minor contradictions, her mother-in-law will never make judgments in front of others, and her neighbors will always say that her daughter-in-law is good.
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my mother-in-law is so magnanimous that she treats her as if she were her own. After a long time, Xiao Su slowly relaxed her heart and became more considerate of her mother-in-law's difficulty.
the family lived in harmony and became the way they wanted it to be.
Tu Lei said:
"if the wife of many years has become a mother-in-law, then the mother-in-law, as an experienced person, should be more considerate of the difficulties of daughter-in-law.
if daughter-in-law can understand that it is not easy to be a mother, as a mother and daughter, she should also understand the hardships of her mother-in-law.
regard love as your own, and treat each other with respect for each other. "
there are no natural enemies, only relationships that can't communicate, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law love the same person.
to put it another way, if a mother-in-law loves her wife, she loves her son. Why not?
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husband is the mediator in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
most of the conflicts in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are due to the "middleman" whom they love together.
many have been marriedAll men may have heard a saying: "your mother and I fell into the water at the same time. Who should you save first?" .
this lethal proposition of lethality level 10 has frightened many men.
however, with more times of being asked, more and more men will find loopholes in it and do the opposite, diverting women's attention by diverting their attention.
although most of them are jokes, the results are surprisingly good.
this reflects the conciliatory role of a man in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. A man with high EQ will always understand a woman's mind and make his wife happy and his mother happy.
and the magic weapon for men to solve problems is a bowl of flat water.
I have seen such a cartoon in which mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarreled bitterly because of contradictions, and both sides were angry.
the husband had a big bowl on his head and opened his hands to cover Rain Water for his wife and mother.
No matter which side you prefer, the other side will always be hurt. Only by keeping a bowl of water flat can you make both sides feel warm.
an expert said: "only a husband with a bowl of water is a good husband. A really smart man should be really reasonable and say more fair words, which will make both sides happy sooner or later."
in fact, the source of most relationships between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is that the mother feels that the baby she has loved for many years has been bullied by other women, while the wife feels that her mother-in-law is always partial to her son, has no place in the family, and is full of grievances.
as the backbone of the family, men should learn to reconcile. They should not only understand that it is not easy for their wives, but also be considerate of their mothers' pains.
usually in life, take the initiative to undertake housework, let the mother know who is the head of the family;
learn to respect your wife, because only if you do, your family will respect you.
get along with your wife and let your mother know that you are happy because of this woman;
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in a good family relationship, the husband's conciliatory role is actually huge.
when there is a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the first-class men reconcile, the second-class men escape, the third-class men are angry, and the fourth-class men join the team.
every man should be that first-class man, so that the family will be more harmonious.
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as the old saying goes, "keep a bowl of soup away from your parents."
means: when children send soup to their parents' house, it should be neither hot nor cold, just right.
the correct relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should be a friendship between gentlemen, with mutual respect and not excessive alienation.
Papi Jiang also talked about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law on a variety show. She said:
"A mother-in-law wants to treat her daughter-in-law as a daughter, but a daughter-in-law can't treat her mother-in-law like a mother.
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because there is more respect and distance between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
concern that does not cross the line is true love.
in the state of family happiness, there must be a good mother-in-law before a good daughter-in-law, and a good husband before a good wife.
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Wen Qian, professional teacher of university broadcast host, Putonghua tester, member of Hubei recitation artists Association.
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