there was such a saying on the Internet:

"Life is easy, life is easy, life is not easy; things are hard, career is hard, career is hard; love is rare, hate is rare, love and hate are rare; it is difficult to learn, it is also difficult to learn."

there are nine out of ten difficulties in life.

but recently, a mentor said something to me, which is very intriguing:

"there are no hard things in the world, only people who are not good at dealing with them."

if you think about it, it is true.

No matter how difficult it is to live, as long as you persist in doing the right thing and form good habits, life will be going uphill.

Reading when confused

once a young reader complained in a letter to Yang Jiang that society was impetuous and the hearts of the people were unpredictable.

after reading it, Yang Jiang replied:

"you have a bad life, just because you think too much and read too little."

whenever I have confusion in my life, I always go through an experience of the writer Cheng Zhidan over and over again.

in the first year of giving birth, Cheng Zhidan's mother-in-law came from her hometown to help with the baby.

two unfamiliar people are forced to live under the same roof. The generation gap of thought and the difference of character make their lives friction constantly.

coupled with her husband's foolishness and filial piety, during that time, she was in a bad mood, her joy of becoming a mother disappeared, and she became more and more confused about her future marriage life.

one day, she came across a sentence:

"half of people's troubles come from their own lives being violated, and the other half from wanting to invade others."

there was an enlightening feeling at that time:

"when I worry that other people don't care about my feelings, how do I care about other people's feelings?"

slowly, he opened his mind and lived a less tiring life.

she said: "Reading saved my life and life, and gave me a new life."

now that she has given birth to a second child, she still lives with her mother-in-law, but she is no longer as upset as she was.

once heard a scholar say:

"when you feel confused, it's best to do something that is 100% devoted, and it's best to read a book."

it's not terrible to be confused, just read.

the more confused you feel, the more you should learn to get out and read more.

every book you read will help you find a way out of life at some point.

exercise when you are sad

Wang Enge, president of Peking University, once said:

one should make "two friends" in his life, one of which is a library and the other is a playground.

the more sad you are, the more you have to let yourself move.

an interviewee on Zhihu once shared the story of getting out of depression by exercise.

this respondent is a patient with severe depression.

four years ago, he was hit hard by the frustration of both his career and love.

I live in the negation of myself every day, feeling that I have accomplished nothing and that I am unloved, and I once wanted to commit suicide.

later, his friends couldn't bear to see him look depressed, so they forced him to exercise.

he was reluctant at first.

but after an exercise, his mood unexpectedly relaxed for no reason, as if the depression accumulated in his heart went out with the sweat.

since then, exercise has become a part of his life.

he says that in addition to the pleasure and excitement of venting stress, what persistent exercise brings to him is more a kind of self-sublimation.

in the process of keeping exercising, he himself slowly changed from laziness to diligence, and overcame the bad habit of procrastination.

at the same time, the contacts he made in sports also expanded his social circle and brought him new opportunities in life.

Roman Roland once said:

"the source of vitality comes from activity. If a person does not do physical activity for a long time, not only his body will gradually weaken, but his mind will also become dull."

people who exercise regularly will find that exercise is the best brain medicine, and when you keep exercising, the whole person will begin to change.

Let's start today, get up half an hour early every day and run a few laps.

or on weekends, make an appointment with three or five friends to climb the mountain.

or set aside a little time to go to the gym and sweat.

it is never too late to exercise; if you keep exercising, you will get something.

Silence at trough

I saw this question on the Internet some time ago: "Why do people like silence as they get older?"

High praise replied: "because it is becoming more and more mature."

if you think about it, it is true.

the road of life is bumpy and bumpy, to find someone to talk to is a choice; to solve the problem on your own is a kind of spiritual practice.

in the TV series "I am willing to Love the whole World for you", Zhang Changgong's family conditions are average, and he does not have a high education, so he runs up against a brick wall when looking for a job.

later, I finally joined an IT company.

along the way, he relied on his hard work to take up the position of vice president of the company from an ordinary clerk.

but at the peak of his career, the Internet industry suffered a trough.The company in also went bankrupt.

after losing his job, he was frustrated to find a job again and again. He was not only ridiculed, but also cheated out of money by the modeling agency.

later, having no choice, he raised 80,000 yuan to buy a used car and made a long-distance freight transportation.

after falling to the bottom of the cloud, anyone may be in a mood.

but even if he runs out of ammunition and food, he will not be discouraged, complain, complain or ask for help.

in the process of falling and getting up, he finally found his own way out: writing online novels.

silently precipitated himself during the trough and eventually became a best-selling author.

has always liked this paragraph:

"No one lives easier than anyone else, but some people are desperate for heaven and earth.

people are at a low ebb, don't bother anyone.

because of your pain, others can't empathize with it.

others can't solve your difficulties for you.

you have to walk step by step, you have to eat in one mouthful, and only by cramping and peeling can you be reborn.

introspection when alone

TED speaker Pique Yale, at the age of 29, lived the life that most of us dream of:

in and out of the busiest neighborhoods in Manhattan, working for time, America's top news magazine, can travel around the world as he pleases and achieve financial freedom early on.

at first, Yale was really excited by the busy life in the crowd.

however, as time goes by, he becomes more and more unhappy.

deep down, he always felt that he was just running blindly.

this time alone enabled him to extricate himself from the noisy world and finally found his true self.

he figured out the way to the ultimate happiness in life:

turn off your computer, throw your phone aside, stay away from electronics, and enjoy solitude and sit-ins.

he also wrote the reflection of this period in the book "the Power of Silence".

actor Chen Daoming once said, "solitude is an examination of a person."

being alone makes people introspect.

only when alone can people shield themselves from outside interference, settle down to examine themselves, face life squarely, and think rationally about the reality and the future.

so leave some time alone and have a long talk with your soul.

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British philosopher Francis Bacon once said:

"habit is a tenacious and great force that can dominate life."

success comes from habits, habits from daily life.

turn a few more pages of books every day, keep exercising, and keep self-examination. these small habits will take you further away.

, may you constantly enrich your body and soul in good habits.